| PART 1: The Child: Socialization in a Developmental Context |
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| CHAPTER 1: Attachment |
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| Attachment and Trust |
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| How Attachment Occurs |
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| Signs of Attachment |
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| Obstacles to Attachment |
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| Learning to Cope with Feelings of Loss |
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| Varying Attachment Patterns |
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| Attachment and Infant Mortality |
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| Judging Attachment in a Cross-Cultural Situation |
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| Child Care and Attachment |
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| Quality Care is Vital to Attachment |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 2: Autonomy |
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| Toddlers and Autonomy |
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| Signs of Developing Autonomy |
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| Negativity |
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| Exploration |
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| Self-Help Skills |
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| A Sense of Possession |
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| Dealing with Issues of Power and Control |
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| Set Up a Developmentally Appropriate Environment |
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| Appreciate Play |
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| Encourage Self-Help Skills |
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| Give Choices |
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| Provide Control |
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| Set Limits |
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| Coping with Loss and Separation |
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| Taking Separation in Small Steps |
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| Entering child Care |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 3: Initiative |
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| What Initiative Looks Like in a 4-Year-Old |
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| Analyzing Initiative in a 4-Year-Old |
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| Developmental Conflicts |
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| Autonomy versus shame and Doubt |
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| Initiative versus Guilt |
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| Imagination and Fantasy |
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| The Value of Play of All Sorts |
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| How the Environment Contributes to a Sense of Initiative |
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| "Dimensions" of Play Environments |
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| How Adults Contribute to children’s Initiative |
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| The Shy child |
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| A Look at Aggression |
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| Ca uses of Aggression |
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| Teaching Young Children Problem-Solving Skills |
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| Empowering the Preschool-Age Child |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 4: Self-Esteem |
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| Portrait of a Person with High Self-esteem |
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| Definition of Self-esteem |
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| Dimensions of Self-esteem |
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| Significance |
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| Competence |
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| Power |
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| Virtue |
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| The Role of Beliefs and Expectations in Self-Esteem |
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| Where Does Self-Esteem Come From? |
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| Promoting Self-Esteem |
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| Give More Honest Feedback and Encouragement Than Praise |
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| Give Children Opportunities to Experience Success |
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| Children Learn from Failure |
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| Celebrating Differences: An Antibias Approach |
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| Bias Is Bad for People |
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| Cultural Differences and Self-Esteem |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| PART 2: The Family: Socialization for High Self-Esteem in Healthy Families |
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| CHAPTER 5: Goals, Values, and Culture |
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| Relationship of Goals and Values to Child-Rearing Practices |
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| Cultural Differences in Goals and Values |
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| Contrasting Cultural Patterns |
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| When Parents and/or Caregivers or Teachers Have Conflicting Goals and Values |
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| What to Do When Conflicts Arise |
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| Build Relationships |
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| Know' Yourself |
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| Work to Bring Differences Out in the Open |
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| Discuss Differences |
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| Become an Effective Cross-Cultural Communicator |
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| Problem-Solve |
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| Commit Yourself to Education |
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| Helping Children Understand and Value Cultural Pluralism |
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| Teaching Morals and Values to children |
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| Teaching Morals by Helping Children Examine Their Decision-Making Process |
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| Teaching Morals by Promoting Prosocial Development |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 6: Child Care: An Extension of the Family |
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| child Care as a Child-Rearing Environment |
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| Affordability and Availability |
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| Status and Salaries |
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| The State of Child Care in America Today |
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| Looking at Quality |
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| Adult-Child Interactions in child Care and Early Education Settings |
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| Including Everybody |
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| Questions Concerning Continuity Between child Care and Home |
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| Parent-Provider Relations |
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| Roadblocks to Mutual Appreciation, Respect, and Support |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
145 |
| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 7: Disciplining for High Self-Esteem |
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| Defining the Word Discipline |
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| Problems with Using Punishment to Teach Young children |
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| Guidelines for Disciplining Young Children |
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| Discipline as Preventing Unacceptable Behavior |
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| Discipline as Responding to Unacceptable Behavior |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| Chapter 8: Accepting Feelings |
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| what Are Feelings? |
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| All Feelings Are Positive |
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| Learning Feelings |
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| Social Referencing |
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| Cultural Scripts |
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| The Importance of Accepting Feelings |
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| Teaching children Healthy Expressions of Feelings |
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| Teaching children to Cope with Feelings |
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| Developing Self-Calming Shills |
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| Coping by Playing Pretend |
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| Coping with Simultaneous Feelings |
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| Coping with Anger |
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| Coping with Fear |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 9: Problem Solving |
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| Problem Solving when Needs Conflict |
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| The Direct Order and Its Disadvantages |
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| TAe Fear-Inducing Approach and Its Disadvantages |
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| Issues Around obedience |
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| Suffering Silently |
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| Suffering Openly |
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| Parenting Approaches |
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| T/ie Authoritarian Approach |
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| T/ie Permissive Approach |
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| T/te Authoritative Approach |
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| The Problem-Solving Process |
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| Problem Solving when the child Hus a Problem |
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| Problem Solving when the Adult Hus the Problem |
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| Using the RERUN Process: An Example |
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| Problem Solving and Cognitive Development |
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| Child-Initiated Problems |
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| Adult-Initiated Problems |
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| Summary of Steps of Problem Solving |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 10: Strokes and Affirmations: A Path to Self-Esteem |
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| What Are Strokes? |
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| Using Positive Strokes to change Behavior |
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| What Are Affirmations? |
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| Affirmations Can Create Self-Fulfilling Prophecies |
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| Children's Response to Affirmations and Strokes |
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| Relation of Adult Self-Esteem to Building Self-Esteem in Children |
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| Changing Negative Messages to Positive Ones |
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| Self-Stroking |
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| Learning New Skills |
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| Tips for Getting Yourself Nurtured |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 11: Modeling and Teaching Sex Roles |
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| Why Think About Teaching Sex Roles? |
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| The Women of Today |
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| Sex Equity and Child Rearing |
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| Toys and Sex Roles |
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| The Power of Language |
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| Using Modeling to Teach |
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| Differential Socialization |
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| Differential Treatment from Parents |
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| Differential Treatment in Preschool |
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| Differential Treatment from Elementary School |
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| The Role of Biology in Creating Differences Between Boys and Girls |
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| Guidelines for Parents and Early Childhood Educators |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 12: Stress and Success in Family Life |
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| Successful Families |
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| Traits of Successful Families |
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| Sara's Family |
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| Roberto's Family |
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| Hal's Family |
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| Michael's Family |
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| Courtney's Family |
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| The Jackson Family |
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| What Do the six Families Have in Common? |
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| Stress Isn’t Necessarily Bad |
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| What We Can Learn from Studies of Resilient children |
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| Helping All Children Become Resilient children |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| PART 3: The Community: Socialization in the Community Context |
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| CHAPTER 13: Community Resources |
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| Social Networks |
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| Developing a Broad Base of Support |
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| Forms Social Networks May Take |
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| Community Institutions That Serve Families |
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| Families Using Community Resources |
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| Sara's Family |
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| Roberto's Family |
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| Hai’s Family |
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| Michael's Family |
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| Courtney's Family |
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| The Jackson Family |
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| Connections to the Community |
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| A Summary of Community Resources |
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| Availability of Community Resources |
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| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
279 |
| References |
279 |
| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 14: Socializing Agents |
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| Socialization and the Family |
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| The Issue of Bias |
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| Schools as Socializing Agents |
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| Getting into Kindergarten |
290 |
| Classroom Behavior |
293 |
| Responding to Diversity |
294 |
| Inequity and Schools |
295 |
| The Peer Group as an Agent of Socialization |
295 |
| Functions of the Peer Group |
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| The Media as an Influence on Socialization |
297 |
| Commercial Advertising |
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| Violence |
300 |
| Summary |
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| For Discussion |
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| References |
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| Further Reading |
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| CHAPTER 15: Social Policy Issues |
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| who Is Responsible for America's children? |
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| Children and Equal Opportunity |
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| Ready to Learn: A Goal for All of America's Children |
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| Hrad Start |
310 |
| Child Care |
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| Economic Development |
313 |
| Adequate Health Services and Nutrition for All |
313 |
| Taking a Preventive Approach |
315 |
| Advocacy |
316 |
| Summary |
317 |
| For Discussion |
318 |
| References |
318 |
| Further Reading |
318 |
| Index |
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