PART 1: The Child: Socialization in a Developmental Context |
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CHAPTER 1: Attachment |
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Attachment and Trust |
6 |
How Attachment Occurs |
9 |
Signs of Attachment |
11 |
Obstacles to Attachment |
12 |
Learning to Cope with Feelings of Loss |
15 |
Varying Attachment Patterns |
17 |
Attachment and Infant Mortality |
19 |
Judging Attachment in a Cross-Cultural Situation |
20 |
Child Care and Attachment |
21 |
Quality Care is Vital to Attachment |
22 |
Summary |
23 |
For Discussion |
23 |
References |
24 |
Further Reading |
25 |
CHAPTER 2: Autonomy |
26 |
Toddlers and Autonomy |
28 |
Signs of Developing Autonomy |
28 |
Negativity |
28 |
Exploration |
29 |
Self-Help Skills |
30 |
A Sense of Possession |
33 |
Dealing with Issues of Power and Control |
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Set Up a Developmentally Appropriate Environment |
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Appreciate Play |
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Encourage Self-Help Skills |
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Give Choices |
38 |
Provide Control |
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Set Limits |
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Coping with Loss and Separation |
42 |
Taking Separation in Small Steps |
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Entering child Care |
42 |
Summary |
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For Discussion |
45 |
References |
46 |
Further Reading |
46 |
CHAPTER 3: Initiative |
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What Initiative Looks Like in a 4-Year-Old |
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Analyzing Initiative in a 4-Year-Old |
51 |
Developmental Conflicts |
53 |
Autonomy versus shame and Doubt |
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Initiative versus Guilt |
53 |
Imagination and Fantasy |
54 |
The Value of Play of All Sorts |
55 |
How the Environment Contributes to a Sense of Initiative |
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"Dimensions" of Play Environments |
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How Adults Contribute to children’s Initiative |
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The Shy child |
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A Look at Aggression |
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Ca uses of Aggression |
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Teaching Young Children Problem-Solving Skills |
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Empowering the Preschool-Age Child |
66 |
Summary |
68 |
For Discussion |
69 |
References |
70 |
Further Reading |
70 |
CHAPTER 4: Self-Esteem |
72 |
Portrait of a Person with High Self-esteem |
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Definition of Self-esteem |
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Dimensions of Self-esteem |
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Significance |
76 |
Competence |
77 |
Power |
78 |
Virtue |
78 |
The Role of Beliefs and Expectations in Self-Esteem |
78 |
Where Does Self-Esteem Come From? |
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Promoting Self-Esteem |
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Give More Honest Feedback and Encouragement Than Praise |
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Give Children Opportunities to Experience Success |
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Children Learn from Failure |
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Celebrating Differences: An Antibias Approach |
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Bias Is Bad for People |
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Cultural Differences and Self-Esteem |
88 |
Summary |
91 |
For Discussion |
91 |
References |
92 |
Further Reading |
92 |
PART 2: The Family: Socialization for High Self-Esteem in Healthy Families |
95 |
CHAPTER 5: Goals, Values, and Culture |
102 |
Relationship of Goals and Values to Child-Rearing Practices |
104 |
Cultural Differences in Goals and Values |
104 |
Contrasting Cultural Patterns |
106 |
When Parents and/or Caregivers or Teachers Have Conflicting Goals and Values |
107 |
What to Do When Conflicts Arise |
109 |
Build Relationships |
113 |
Know' Yourself |
114 |
Work to Bring Differences Out in the Open |
114 |
Discuss Differences |
114 |
Become an Effective Cross-Cultural Communicator |
114 |
Problem-Solve |
115 |
Commit Yourself to Education |
115 |
Helping Children Understand and Value Cultural Pluralism |
116 |
Teaching Morals and Values to children |
116 |
Teaching Morals by Helping Children Examine Their Decision-Making Process |
117 |
Teaching Morals by Promoting Prosocial Development |
118 |
Summary |
121 |
For Discussion |
121 |
References |
122 |
Further Reading |
122 |
CHAPTER 6: Child Care: An Extension of the Family |
126 |
child Care as a Child-Rearing Environment |
128 |
Affordability and Availability |
130 |
Status and Salaries |
131 |
The State of Child Care in America Today |
133 |
Looking at Quality |
134 |
Adult-Child Interactions in child Care and Early Education Settings |
135 |
Including Everybody |
136 |
Questions Concerning Continuity Between child Care and Home |
138 |
Parent-Provider Relations |
141 |
Roadblocks to Mutual Appreciation, Respect, and Support |
142 |
Summary |
145 |
For Discussion |
145 |
References |
146 |
Further Reading |
146 |
CHAPTER 7: Disciplining for High Self-Esteem |
148 |
Defining the Word Discipline |
150 |
Problems with Using Punishment to Teach Young children |
151 |
Guidelines for Disciplining Young Children |
153 |
Discipline as Preventing Unacceptable Behavior |
153 |
Discipline as Responding to Unacceptable Behavior |
158 |
Summary |
164 |
For Discussion |
164 |
References |
164 |
Further Reading |
165 |
Chapter 8: Accepting Feelings |
166 |
what Are Feelings? |
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All Feelings Are Positive |
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Learning Feelings |
171 |
Social Referencing |
172 |
Cultural Scripts |
173 |
The Importance of Accepting Feelings |
175 |
Teaching children Healthy Expressions of Feelings |
176 |
Teaching children to Cope with Feelings |
178 |
Developing Self-Calming Shills |
178 |
Coping by Playing Pretend |
180 |
Coping with Simultaneous Feelings |
180 |
Coping with Anger |
181 |
Coping with Fear |
182 |
Summary |
184 |
For Discussion |
185 |
References |
185 |
Further Reading |
185 |
CHAPTER 9: Problem Solving |
188 |
Problem Solving when Needs Conflict |
190 |
The Direct Order and Its Disadvantages |
190 |
TAe Fear-Inducing Approach and Its Disadvantages |
190 |
Issues Around obedience |
191 |
Suffering Silently |
191 |
Suffering Openly |
191 |
Parenting Approaches |
192 |
T/ie Authoritarian Approach |
192 |
T/ie Permissive Approach |
192 |
T/te Authoritative Approach |
193 |
The Problem-Solving Process |
193 |
Problem Solving when the child Hus a Problem |
194 |
Problem Solving when the Adult Hus the Problem |
196 |
Using the RERUN Process: An Example |
199 |
Problem Solving and Cognitive Development |
200 |
Child-Initiated Problems |
200 |
Adult-Initiated Problems |
201 |
Summary of Steps of Problem Solving |
201 |
Summary |
204 |
For Discussion |
204 |
References |
204 |
Further Reading |
204 |
CHAPTER 10: Strokes and Affirmations: A Path to Self-Esteem |
206 |
What Are Strokes? |
208 |
Using Positive Strokes to change Behavior |
210 |
What Are Affirmations? |
211 |
Affirmations Can Create Self-Fulfilling Prophecies |
212 |
Children's Response to Affirmations and Strokes |
214 |
Relation of Adult Self-Esteem to Building Self-Esteem in Children |
217 |
Changing Negative Messages to Positive Ones |
217 |
Self-Stroking |
219 |
Learning New Skills |
220 |
Tips for Getting Yourself Nurtured |
222 |
Summary |
223 |
For Discussion |
224 |
References |
224 |
Further Reading |
224 |
CHAPTER 11: Modeling and Teaching Sex Roles |
226 |
Why Think About Teaching Sex Roles? |
228 |
The Women of Today |
228 |
Sex Equity and Child Rearing |
229 |
Toys and Sex Roles |
229 |
The Power of Language |
231 |
Using Modeling to Teach |
232 |
Differential Socialization |
232 |
Differential Treatment from Parents |
234 |
Differential Treatment in Preschool |
234 |
Differential Treatment from Elementary School |
235 |
The Role of Biology in Creating Differences Between Boys and Girls |
236 |
Guidelines for Parents and Early Childhood Educators |
237 |
Summary |
239 |
For Discussion |
239 |
References |
239 |
Further Reading |
239 |
CHAPTER 12: Stress and Success in Family Life |
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Successful Families |
244 |
Traits of Successful Families |
245 |
Sara's Family |
246 |
Roberto's Family |
247 |
Hal's Family |
248 |
Michael's Family |
248 |
Courtney's Family |
249 |
The Jackson Family |
250 |
What Do the six Families Have in Common? |
252 |
Stress Isn’t Necessarily Bad |
252 |
What We Can Learn from Studies of Resilient children |
254 |
Helping All Children Become Resilient children |
255 |
Summary |
258 |
For Discussion |
258 |
References |
259 |
Further Reading |
259 |
PART 3: The Community: Socialization in the Community Context |
261 |
CHAPTER 13: Community Resources |
264 |
Social Networks |
266 |
Developing a Broad Base of Support |
267 |
Forms Social Networks May Take |
268 |
Community Institutions That Serve Families |
268 |
Families Using Community Resources |
269 |
Sara's Family |
269 |
Roberto's Family |
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Hai’s Family |
272 |
Michael's Family |
272 |
Courtney's Family |
273 |
The Jackson Family |
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Connections to the Community |
275 |
A Summary of Community Resources |
275 |
Availability of Community Resources |
277 |
Summary |
278 |
For Discussion |
279 |
References |
279 |
Further Reading |
279 |
CHAPTER 14: Socializing Agents |
282 |
Socialization and the Family |
284 |
The Issue of Bias |
285 |
Schools as Socializing Agents |
289 |
Getting into Kindergarten |
290 |
Classroom Behavior |
293 |
Responding to Diversity |
294 |
Inequity and Schools |
295 |
The Peer Group as an Agent of Socialization |
295 |
Functions of the Peer Group |
297 |
The Media as an Influence on Socialization |
297 |
Commercial Advertising |
299 |
Violence |
300 |
Summary |
302 |
For Discussion |
302 |
References |
302 |
Further Reading |
302 |
CHAPTER 15: Social Policy Issues |
304 |
who Is Responsible for America's children? |
306 |
Children and Equal Opportunity |
308 |
Ready to Learn: A Goal for All of America's Children |
309 |
Hrad Start |
310 |
Child Care |
310 |
Economic Development |
313 |
Adequate Health Services and Nutrition for All |
313 |
Taking a Preventive Approach |
315 |
Advocacy |
316 |
Summary |
317 |
For Discussion |
318 |
References |
318 |
Further Reading |
318 |
Index |
321 |